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Our First Triathlon

4 Apr

We did the sprint distance “Vi Tri” in Visalia. Its something the 2 of us have talked about doing for 3-4 years now, and we did it!

Its something the 2 of us have talked about doing for 3-4 years now, and we did it!

Here’s Brian setting up our transition area

The swim was rough. I got into a super slow, overcrowded lane, so it was hard to pass. When I got on the bike I kept thinking, “just pass anyone you come up to.”

The girls started about 10min after the guys. Brian and I passed each other twice during the event and cheered each other on. It was so awesome to see my studly husband doing something he has always wanted to accomplish.

Yay, I did it!

And then the most shocking thing happened. They were announcing who got what place by age and long/short race. We stayed, wanting to be a part of the experience, and see who the winners were.

When I hear on the speaker,”Jacinda Hale”. Huh, What?! So I go up to see what happened. And they tell me I got 1st place in my age group!!!

I was pumped! Got 10th place overall in the girls division out of 56.

It was an amazing experience. I LOVED doing this with Brian. Im so glad I did it, and cant wait to do it again! If you’re even considering it, DO IT! It’s such a great culture. Everyone is so encouraging and warm.

Who of you have tried a triathlon or plan to? Or another physical event? Would love to hear about it.


Confessions of a Pregnant Woman

3 Mar

As the date of our third child is approaching, my emotions are running wild. This pregnancy, my concerns are so different than the other 2 times.

With Kiara, I had dreams of her being really ugly and dealing with the guilt of thinking my child was ugly and then misplacing her in my 900 sq. ft house. Crazy I know! Of course I wondered if I would be a good mom. When she first came home we were so freaked out of the responsibility of this little life and that we would accidentally kill her.  We of course figured things out as we went and fell madly in love with her.

With Melania, I would have sleepless nights wondering how I would possibly love her like I loved Kiara. I couldn’t imagine loving another child as much as I loved her. This scared me to death. Once she was born, I was amazed at the capacity to love. It’s so true, that your love doesn’t run out from loving someone else too.

This time I know I will be in love with my third girl as much as the 1st and 2nd. I’m not worried about taking care of her or really even what she looks like. My new concern is, Is there enough of me to give to each of my children and my husband. I worry that they won’t feel the love I have for them as I am stretched thin. I’m afraid of any one of them feeling unimportant or being in need of more than I am able to give. My prayer is that God will fill in every gap that I cannot. Of course I cannot be enough for them. He has to be. So I realize in my head this is the truth, but I need my heart to trust that too.


3 Jan

I was feeling nostalgic on Friday morning and thought I would share a favorite childhood dish with my girls. I have fond memories of my mom making hot custard for me in the morning for breakfast. I loved it so much and could not wait for it to cool and usually burnt my tongue. Anyways, I couldn’t wait to surprise them with it. Unfortunately, Kiara the picky one, took one bite and said she didn’t like it. And Melania, who normally eats anything wouldn’t even try it. “I no like it.” she tells me. So I ate 2. I sent some with Brian to work too. Later that day, I asked him if he would be hungry if I made dinner, and his reply was as long as it wasn’t custard! The funny thing is it tasted okay, but not at all like I remembered it. So have my taste buds changed or was it just special because my mom made it special?

If You Don’t Have Something Nice To Say…..

27 Dec

…then don’t say anything at all!
I’m just wondering why people seem to think they have the right to verbally critique your body when they see you are pregnant. Didn’t anyone teach them the saying? You wouldn’t walk up to someone you don’t know and start questioning their weight and how they carry it if they weren’t pregnant right?! So what triggers the brain to think its okay to just because they are carrying a baby? I mean c’mon, a pregnant woman is more likely to be hurt and offended with all those hormones raging!

Within 2 days, I had one family member let me know how Big I was for how far along I was. And then a coworker, (whom I have no relationship with) critique if I was having a boy/girl based on how I was carrying and I must be a havein a — because of how wide I was! Of course, now that I have had more time to process, I think of what else I could have said. But I did say something. To the family member I said, “Every time I see you, you tell me how big I am!” She quickly changed her tune and tried back peddaling. And to the coworker I said something similar, she still didnt get it! Both parties were not first time offenses!

I am on a rant for all the awful stories I’ve heard from close friends who instead of having a good comeback, just stand there dumbstruck from the critisism recieved. My warning to anyone who aproaches me with this “honesty” is Watch Out! I’m done being polite. This is my 3rd pregnancy with the same types of frustrating people and I have had it! I will let you know how offensive it is to hopelfully protect the next pregnant victim of your inconsideracy.  Advice: If what you’re going to say to a prego isn’t in compliment form then refrain!

So do tell. What are the great body image insults you have heard?
And please any good comebacks out there for future commenters?

The Perfect Accountability Partner

18 Dec

So, my last weigh in at my Doctor’s was not a pretty one. (I’m 6 mos. pregnant for anyone not aware)  I knew it was coming and was dreading it. My doctor, being the genius that he is, decided to call in some reinforcement.
Dr:”Kiara, i have a special job for you. (Her eyes lit up!) I need you to help mommy to not eat any candy, cookies, pastries, chocolate, or any other treats. Can you help her with that?”

Of course she agreed. She called Brian to tell him as soon as we got in the car. She told Grandma at lunch about her special job too.
Nap time came around and I was craving something sweet. I found my mom’s stash of chocolate and pulled out a mini twix. Not the snack size, but the bite size. (Like my justification?) Anyways. I let it sit in my pocket contemplating if I should eat it or not. The guilt got to me so I put it back. About 30 minutes later, Kiara gets up from her bed and askes me, “Mommy, did you eat a cookie when I was in my bed?”
“Well I thought I heard a noise when I was in my bed.”
“No, I promise I didn’t eat a cookie.”
“I heard beeping like the oven makes. Did you bake a cookie and eat it?”
“Oh, the beeping was from the dryer finishing. I didn’t make or eat any cookies. Promise.”
“Oh. Okay. I thought maybe you forgot that you weren’t supposed to have any treats.”
“No, I didn’t forget. I did almost eat a teeny, tiny piece of candy, but then I felt bad, so I put it back.”

So seriously. This is changing everything! I normally try to eat healthy, but if I fudge here and there, no big deal right? Well, now it’s more than self indulgences. It’s my word, my integrity, my self discipline or lack there of that I am teaching my daughter.

Props to Dr. S. I don’t think he knew what child he was giving this job to, or mabe he did!

Birthday Month

20 Oct

So I know I’m supposed to be a grown up, but I still like having a birthday. Maybe it’s because I’m still in my 20’s. I say that to bug all my close friends who recently have stepped into the next decade. You know who you are! Anyways, I love stretching it out for as long as possible.
I started celebrating on Oct. 13th.

This is my birthday club. Mamie, me, Mignon, Nina, and Shelly. We all have birthdays that fall in October, so we decide to celebrated them together. This was our 2nd annual dinner. Went to Max’s, wore makeup and dressed up with no kids. How could we not have fun!

Tonight we went to Cabo Wabo for dinner to celebrate Dave (my brother in law) and my birthday which are a day apart. Very fun restaurant. We shared multiple desserts, since we couldn’t decide and passed them around. Thanks for dinner Mom and Dad! (I am so shocked that both my girls are smiling for the camera!)
More to come on the bday this week. I love it! What do you like doing for your birthday? Or do you even like celebrating it?

I’m Back!!!!!

17 Sep

So I know it’s been weeks since my last post. At first it was just because I was so busy, but then I decided to take a break from giving details of my life away for anyone to read them. I think I’m over that now. I’m back and for the moment at least, over what other people think. Thanks to all who were concerned while I was away! Man I really miss all of you!

what’s been going on:
-we went to Orange County for my great Granny’s 100th bday
-we moved out of our house to my Mom’s on Labor Day
-the girls got bunk beds
-I started a full time job the next week
-Brian went to Boston the same week I started work (how’s that for timing!)
-I had amazing friends helping watch the girls, but their flip flop schedule was unbearable for them
-Then the girls got the flu, puking on the top bunk!
-Meanwhile, Melania was having what I know now is Night Terrors. She wakes up in the middle of the night hysterical and in a panic, except she’s not really awake. Its really freaky! It takes 30 minutes to an hour to wake her up. The Dr. said its triggered from stress.
-Kiara sat in my lap the other night and silently tears stream down her face, as she tells me she feels left out. And wants to know why I don’t have time to play with her anymore.
-The next day I quit.
-So I have 2 days left

I can’t tell you how excited I am to be back with my girls. Life has been rocky and all I want to do is love on them! That’s been my life in a nutshell. What have you been up to?